Mindset matters more than you may think. What happens when positivity runs out? When you find yourself in a slump that feels like a deep hole, and motivation has vanished? When you know what’s good for you—exercise, healthy eating, connection—but can’t seem to take action?

I’ve been there. And here’s what I learned.

After decades of living by a schedule—child-rearing, career, routines—suddenly everything was different. I had freedom, yes, but also questions that kept me awake at night. How do I nurture relationships with my grown children and grandchildren, when their lives are so full? There wasn’t outright depression, but there was a real sadness—a sense of loss. And all over again, I had to learn the art of letting go.

I realized that the stories I was telling myself about aging, change, and my role in the world were shaping what I believed I could do. Old patterns and negative thoughts would replay: I’m not as needed anymore. My best days are behind me.

That’s when I discovered just how powerful my mindset really was. It’s not just wishful thinking—not some feel-good quote you stick on your fridge. Your mind is the lens through which you see everything. If it is cloudy, life feels harder. If it is clear, even hard days seem figure-out-able.

I started to challenge my own self-talk. Instead of, “I can’t do this” or “What’s the point?” I began to ask, “What if today, I just do one small thing?” One walk. A phone call. A fresh vegetable at dinner.

This shift didn’t happen overnight—it’s still in progress! I had to practice catching myself in negative patterns and writing a new script. If you’ve felt stuck or uninspired, please know you’re not alone. Creativity and purpose don’t retire; we just have to invite them back.

Here are a few habits that helped me:

Start each morning with a moment of gratitude. Before my feet hit the floor, I name three things I’m thankful for.

• • Set small, realistic goals. Breaking things down—one drawer to organize, one friend to text—made accomplishment feel possible.
  • Move my body daily, even for five minutes. The momentum matters more than perfection.
  • Let myself be a beginner again. Whether it’s a puzzle, a new recipe, or learning to use TikTok, trying new things wakes up different parts of my brain!
  • Connect with others. Even if it’s just a smile at the grocery store or a kind word online, connection always lifts my spirits.

Life after 50 is not the end of your story—it’s a whole new chapter. Every day you wake up, you get to decide how the story goes. Your mindset is the pen. There will be days you want to give up, and days you feel fierce and new. But you are still the author.

I hope you’ll join me in practicing a positive mindset, choosing hope even when it feels hard, and reaching out when you need support. We’re in this together!

Need a reminder of this to keep handy, especially on the hard days? Check out my free download called Mastering your Mindset and keep a copy handy!